What is the worst behavior that your company’s leadership will tolerate? Think about it for a minute. That behavior, particularly if it is repeatedly tolerated, defines your organizational culture.
There are many things that can comprise poor behavior in an organization: sexual harassment, the company’s attitude and treatment of millennials, an inability by leaders to follow through on commitments, failure to show up for meetings or canceling at the last minute, just to name a few examples.
Over the last year, we’ve seen companies from United Airlines to Fox News struggle with a problem of perception over their company culture and what is tolerated.
Beyond the poor behavior in question, such as sexual harassment, there is another type of behavior that must be judged: How the leadership reacts and responds to poor behavior. The leadership response demonstrates just what will be accepted at the company and what the organizational culture will be.
When something happens at your company, what does your leadership do? Do they acknowledge it, show a willingness to listen to employees and quickly put practices in place to ensure it doesn’t happen again? Or do they ignore or dismiss it as an aberration?
If you’re in a position of leadership, people will view your response, good or bad, as indicative of your organizational culture.
We call the leadership responses behaviors rather than norms, values or beliefs because we can see behaviors. It’s harder to see values and they’re easier to suppress. You can talk about your values but the fact that you are tolerant of those behaviors will say otherwise.
We can see when a leader unnecessarily berates an employee. We can see when an individual shows up late for a meeting repeatedly and is always excused for it. You know if someone is not a good listener, they don’t respect the culture or they hold on to underperformers too long.If you’re in a position of leadership, people will view your response, good or bad, as indicative of your organizational culture. Click To Tweet
When we talk about the nine behaviors that can derail a leader, these are the actions we continually observe.
It’s easy to talk about culture. Leaders can speak to things like ethics and collaboration. But how do we know if their words accurately reflect the organizational culture? Here’s where the rubber meets the road: Ask them, “What’s not tolerated here?”
The answer will typically be in terms of behaviors, such as:
People know these behaviors when they see them – and it says a lot about a culture.
This may be a good exercise for you to go through with your team, especially if you are a new leader or new manager. Ask the team, “What’s not tolerated here in the department or here at the company?” Listen to their answers and see if their behavior reflects the answers given.
When someone’s behavior is bad and leadership makes excuses to cover up for this behavior, we hear statements like the following:
“I know he’s an obnoxious jerk, horrible to women and bullies everyone who remotely disagrees with him, but he’s….”
He’s what? A rainmaker? An asset to your clients? Retiring in three years? Dealing with a wife who has cancer?
It doesn’t matter, really. Because all of these possibilities and ones like them normalize the behavior as tolerable. The hard truth is the leader excusing it, thinking it will all “blow over” and giving the offender a free pass is motivated by at least one of three things: Power, greed or self-interest.
[Editor’s Note: To learn more, please read Breaking the Cycle of Arrogance and Eliminating Unethical Company Culture.]
The leader may not like conflict (who does?), but the heart of the matter is that the leader sees the offender as key to preserving their own power.
With this in mind, ask yourself: If the poorly behaving individual is a rainmaker or someone highly valued by one of your clients, what are you so afraid of if you remove him? The deeper question may be – why is that? Why do you have such a dependence on someone who behaves so badly that you have to look the other way time and time again? What will their absence reveal about you as a leader, about your team’s competence, about your client relationships and about how strongly you believe in your core values?
For the sake of argument, let’s say that an employee’s poor behavior does blow over and people do forget about it. What happens when it happens again, either by the same individual or someone else? Obviously, you can’t keep excusing it and saying, “Yes, but he’s a great performer for us.” In that moment, what you excuse will be reflective of the organizational culture. Consider what that communicates to everyone on your team in terms of what they can get away with and what you will turn the other cheek on.
So let’s pretend that you’ve actually had a little bit of an internal wake-up call and said to yourself, “Gosh, I’ve accepted some terrible things around here and I have to change things in myself and in others for the sake of our organizational culture.”
What are some things you could do that doesn’t feel like “lip service” to make change? The first step is showing your humility and admitting your misstep to others. If you excused underperformers for too long, for example, you need to come out and say as much. This includes saying, “We have tolerated this type of behavior for too long and we’re not going to tolerate it anymore.”
[Editor’s Note: To learn more, read 4 Tips to Becoming a Better Leader.]
Now, don’t expect people to automatically buy into what you’re saying. They’re likely going to be sitting there staring back at you and thinking, “Sounds good, but we’ll believe that when we see it.”
Therefore, a proclamation of what you will and won’t tolerate isn’t enough. You’re going to have to follow through with accountability. Without holding people accountable – including yourself – you will be right back at square one, excusing the behavior once again. There must accountability and recourse. You can’t just hide the offender by moving them to a different department, either. That will be seen as excusing the behavior as well.
Without holding people accountable – including yourself – you will be right back at square one, excusing the behavior once again. There must accountability and recourse.
By the way, you may fire a person who has exhibited behavior you don’t wish to see tolerated, but at the end of the day, have you made real changes just by getting rid of one person? Not necessarily. Removing one person doesn’t change the organizational culture that has been ingrained by tolerating bad behavior.
That’s why now, as a result, you must consider what policies you will have in place so that your company has a real plan of what to do the next time someone exhibits behavior that is outside of what’s acceptable. If it’s a “zero tolerance” policy, what does that look like? What happens when someone violates it? How will this policy be communicated to others so that they know what the organization stands for?
When you have an organizational culture where people are held accountable by policies that have been put in place, it’s a lot harder for the narrative to be one where your organization excuses bad behavior.
[Editor’s Note: Letting employees go is hard, make it easier by listening to our webinar It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye: Minimizing Risk When Terminating Employees.]
I have learned many things from Helen Johnson, one of the owners of SC Johnson, the cleaning products company, I asked her, “How do you make tough decisions?”
Her answer was that she would ask herself four questions:
If you can say yes to all of these questions without trying to rationalize it away, it’s probably the right decision. However, if you’re wavering, it’s likely something you shouldn’t do because it’s not in alignment with the organizational culture you want to establish. One question is not more important than the others. It has to be a definitive “yes” on each question in order to go forward with a decision that’s right across the board.
If you view a variety of decisions being made today by leaders, it’s clear that they haven’t asked these four questions of themselves. Because it comes down to this: If you’re doing the right thing for the employee, for the company, for the community and for yourself, most of the time it works out as good business. And it is my strong belief that it’s good business to be a good person.
As people exhibit greater self-awareness of their actions (or inaction), they can begin to change perceptions of themselves, their culture and their company as a whole.
Lee Eisenstaedt is the Co-Founder of the Leading With Courage℠ Academy and author of the Amazon best seller, "Being A Leader With Courage." Lee helps new and emerging leaders make a bigger impact, sooner by increasing the self-awareness of their strengths and blind spots through the Academy’s assessments, workshops, and executive coaching. He has also…
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